A Lesson in Understanding

Hubby and I were bickering pretty much all day.
Wanna know why?
Because of groceries...He grew up with a mom who went to 4 different stores to hit up all the sales, and I grew up with a mom who went to one store that had the stuff on sale she wanted, and then she picked up everything else at that store, 'cuz why make more than one trip if you don't have to.
Why can't he just understand that people do things DIFFERENTLY.

Just because his mom does it doesn't make it right, it just makes it right for HER. And I'm not saying it's wrong, it's just different from how I grew up.

Why does everyone have issue with the fact that people grow up differently, because of different circumstances and different backgrounds both financial and emotional.
This theme has been coming up a lot more, not in my marriage because he and I can pretty much agree to disagree, or come to some kind of compromise.
I just seem to be getting more and more irritated, and defensive for the people being judged.

What works for you, might not work for me, but who I am to judge you? And I am getting increasingly frustrated with people who think that their way of thinking is the ONLY WAY it can be done. Why? Just because you see it your way, doesn't mean that it's right for me.
Like, if you want to dye your hair in the sink at work go for it. Just don't ask me to help.

BUT, if you ask for an opinion about it you'll get one. I am really trying not to stick my foot in my mouth when it comes to doling out advice, but if you ask for it, expect it. Just don't ARGUE with me when I give it to you, because again, it works for me and you asked for MY opinion, not what I think YOUR opinion is.

Although I guess that my trying not to be judgemental is still being judgemental because I am judging the people who are judging...oh fuck it! Everyone Sucks!